Christians and the church tend to shy away from talking about sex, premarital sex and sex
outside of marriage. God and sex are rarely mentioned in the same sentence, and yet people
still have a deep need for spirituality, to experience God in their lives and to seek guidance
on sexual matters. It becomes a dilemma when the question is posed: where do sexuality
and spirituality meet? One way to answer this question is to attempt to find a link between
spirituality and sexuality. In this way, spirituality could gain relevance, and expressing one’s
sexuality could find a moral foundation. People are both spiritual and sexual creatures – with
the need to express their spirituality and sexuality in a moral, but unashamedly natural way.
This article attempts to find alternative solutions for our complex society – on the subject of
marriage and sexuality. The intention is not to dismiss the institution of marriage, but rather
to renegotiate the terms and structure of marriage in the 21st century.
This article represents a reworked version of a thesis submitted in fulfilment of the degree MA (Biblical and Religious Studies) at the University of Pretoria, under the supervision of Prof. Dr P.A. Geyser.