A traumatic experience faced by the second wife married in a polygamous marriage. A challenge to pastoral care. A story of the proposed contribution of a modern pastoral care, and councelling model to the second wives, married in a polygamous marriage, with special reference to the people of Mogale circut at Mogale Methodist Church of Southern Africa in Gauteng Province

Abstract

People of Africa have travelled a long way with discrimination oppression and abuse, more especially women married as second wives in a Polygamous marriage. They have been abused oppressed and discriminated in the church, in the family and in the community. This has happened for a very longtime due to a long time male dominance in the church and in the community. This has left the church crippled in the ministering of women more especially second wives married in a Polygamous marriages. The researcher aims to help our community to confess for the past sins and ask for forgiveness. The aim here is to help the church to see that culture and Christianity works together with the aim of having one culture as Mugambi states “It can be change” ( Mugambi J.N. 1997.14). by doing so it will be pleasing in God’s eyes and we will be blessed as Africans. The researcher focuses on how the Methodist Church of Sothern Africa can play a role in addressing issues faced by the second wives married in a Polygamous marriage so that they have dignity and human rights. How can the church deal with the trauma and pains caused by the church, the in Laws and the community more especially after the death of a husband, this will help the women’s married in a polygamous marriages to share their painful stories so that they can be helped, and accepted by the church and organizations in the church as full members. This research is a way of helping and educating the church to have compassion and love for the women’s married in a Polygamous marriage, and that will make the church to be christlike and that will be pleasing in God’s eyes and we will be blessed as Africans and as the people of God.