The aim of the article is to describe and explain the paradigm shift from a modern to a postmodern mindset regarding pastoral counseling with women. Modernistic thinking contributed to the non-identity of women, though more rights were gradually granted to women. The perspective
from which theology approached women was still embedded is a premodern biblical mindset. This article elaborates on the hermeneutic of suspicion with the aim to enhancing a more symmetrical pastoral interaction. This symmetry is conducive to authentic communication, genuine
respect for women as persons and for their stories. This provides an optimum environment for healing.